Your Attachment Loop Profile

Where are you in the loop?

Twelve questions, about four minutes. Slide toward whichever end is truer for you right now. The middle is a fine answer.

  1. 01How it began
  2. 02What’s shifting
  3. 03Inside you
  4. 04Your ground

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Part 1 of 4 · How it began When this connection began

I took my time getting to know them.

It felt like I’d known them forever.

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Part 1 of 4 · How it began On an ordinary day

My days run on my own rhythm.

My day arranges itself around when I might hear from them.

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Part 2 of 4 · What’s shifting Lately, between us

Things feel steady.

I can feel them pulling back.

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Part 2 of 4 · What’s shifting When a reply is slow

I assume they’re busy.

I start to wonder what I did.

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Part 2 of 4 · What’s shifting When they come close

I lean in.

Part of me wants space.

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Part 3 of 4 · Inside you Their messages

I read them once and move on.

I reread them, looking for what they really meant.

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Part 3 of 4 · Inside you When I feel unsettled

I can wait it out.

I need to reach out and fix it now.

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Part 3 of 4 · Inside you In my body, when I think about us

I feel mostly settled.

My chest tightens and my mind races.

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Part 3 of 4 · Inside you When something hurts

I tell them.

I go quiet and handle it on my own.

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Part 4 of 4 · Your ground What I need

I’ve lost touch with what I need.

I know what I need, even when they’re distant.

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Part 4 of 4 · Your ground My mood

Depends on how they’re treating me.

Is mostly my own.

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Part 4 of 4 · Your ground Time that’s mine

I can’t remember the last thing I did just for me.

I still make time for the things that are mine.

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