Attachment Loop Profile
Example
You’re in The Spiral.
With an anxious lean: when it feels uncertain, you move toward them.
Tonight · 90 seconds
The ninety-second pause
For the one who waits for the reply
You’re not too much.
You’re not too much.
You’re in a loop.
You reread the message four times, then pull away before they can. There’s a pattern under that, and a way back to yourself.
Recognition
Does this sound like you?
- You know their typing pattern better than your own needs.
- A slow reply can take your whole evening.
- You’re calm and capable everywhere except here.
- You’ve said “no worries” and meant the opposite.
- When they finally come close, part of you wants to run.
None of this makes you broken. It means there’s a loop worth understanding.
The framework
Four stages, one loop.
Anxious and avoidant patterns move in a cycle. Knowing where you are in it is the first thing that gives you a choice.
The Pull
A fast, bright closeness that feels like recognition.
The Pullback
Distance arrives. Replies slow, and you feel it before anyone says it.
The Spiral
The alarm takes over: rereading, rehearsing, reaching out.
Return to Self
You come back to your body, your needs and your own life.
The app
Three small things for the hard nights.
The Anxious Loop app is being built with its first members. These three tools sit at its heart.
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The check-in
Twenty seconds: where you are in the loop today, and where you feel it in your body. Over a few weeks, your pattern shows itself.
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The Pause
Before you send that message: a three-minute body practice in my voice. Then you choose. Send it, change it, or let it go.
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Return time
Your own measure of progress: how long it takes to come back to yourself after a spiral. It’s meant to get shorter.
Live, in a small group
Four weeks to find your choice point.
One live call a week for four weeks, in a small group. You’ll learn to catch the moment the loop starts, and what to do in your body before you do anything else.
You’ll leave with
- A clear picture of your own loop
- Your choice point: the moment you can do something different
- Three body practices you can use anywhere
- A plan for the next time the pull comes
The Choice Point Workshop
- Starts
- Dates coming soon
- Format
- 4 weekly live calls, online
- Places
- 12 in a small group
A$199ONCE
Places open soon. Leave your email and you’ll hear first.
Members pay less for every workshop.
Membership
Choose your way in.
Everything in the membership is built around the four stages. Prices are in Australian dollars, and you can cancel any time.
Bronze
A$25A MONTH
- The app: check-ins, the Pause and return time
- The practice library, by stage
- Monthly live Q&A replays
Join the founding list
Silver
A$50A MONTH
- Everything in Bronze
- Join the monthly Q&A live
- Members’ price on workshops
Join the founding list
Gold
EverythingA$99A MONTH
- Everything in Silver
- Your questions answered first at every Q&A
- The biggest workshop discount
- First places in new workshops
Join the founding list
Founding members
The first members shape this.
There are no testimonials here yet, on purpose. Real words only, shared with permission, once people have something real to say.
- Your questions shape the next practices
- Small groups while it’s early
- A direct line to Jeremy at the monthly Q&A
A letter from Jeremy
Why I made The Anxious Loop.
I’m Jeremy, a somatic coach. I work with the body first, because that’s where the loop begins: in the tight chest and the racing mind, long before the message gets sent.
Most people I meet already know their attachment style. They can explain it beautifully. What they don’t have is something to do in the moment it takes over.
The Anxious Loop is what I’d want for anyone in the middle of it: a clear way to see where you are, one practice to try tonight, and people who understand.
Jeremy
More about JeremyIs this therapy?
No. This is coaching and education, built on body-based practice. It can sit alongside therapy, but it isn’t a replacement. If you’re struggling with your mental health, please see a GP or a psychologist.
Is my data private?
Yes. Your profile answers stay here, and the app records that you used a tool, never what you wrote. You can ask for everything to be deleted at any time.
Does my partner need to join?
No. Everything here works from your side of the loop. When your part changes, the pattern changes.
What if I’m the avoidant one?
You’re welcome here. The profile shows your lean, and the practices work both ways: for the one who reaches and the one who pulls away.
Can I cancel any time?
Yes. Memberships are monthly or yearly, and you can cancel whenever you like.
The loop isn’t who you are.
It’s where you are.
Four minutes to see it clearly, and one thing to try tonight.