The Anxious Loop Masterclass:
finally understand the dynamic that keeps pulling you back.
Why you can’t stop thinking about someone who runs hot and cold. Why it happens to the calmest, most self-aware people. And what actually shifts it — starting the same night.
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You’ll probably recognise this immediately.
You’re re-reading the thread trying to find the exact moment the energy changed.
You’ve written a message, softened it so it sounds casual, then wondered whether to send it at all.
You look calm and self-contained while internally tracking every shift in the connection.
You don’t want to become cold or stop caring. You just want to stop abandoning yourself.
This is for the contained anxious — the person who holds it all in while getting caught in a hot-and-cold connection. I built it from a pattern I know from the inside, not from theory alone.
The full map — not a teaser.
The dynamic, decoded
The four attachment styles in plain language, why the fearful avoidant creates the strongest pull, and the contained anxious — the high-functioning version of this pattern that nobody talks about.
The Anxious Loop
The four stages — the Pull, the Pullback, the Spiral, the Return to Self — and the stages of the dynamic with an avoidant. You’ll locate exactly where you are in it.
What you’re actually feeling — and why
Why their silence lands like an emergency in your body, what your attachment system is really asking for, and why analysing them more was never going to settle it.
The acute shift
What to do in the exact moment the discomfort hits — the fact-vs-meaning separation, live. You’ll leave with something you can use the same night.
Life on the other side
What it looks like to be warm, connected and fully yourself — with your energy back and your worth living in you, not in their reply speed. And the path to get there.
You don’t have to make the alarm stop. You have to stop letting the alarm drive.
Questions you’re probably asking
Is it really free?
Yes. Register, show up, get the full training. At the end I’ll tell you about The Return — the 4-week program — for those who want to go deeper. That’s the whole model, stated up front.
What if I can’t make it live?
Register anyway — everyone registered receives the replay. But the live session is better: you can ask about your specific situation, and the 1:1 draw only includes people in the room.
Is this therapy?
No. This is coaching and education. It works alongside therapy, not instead of it. If you’re in real distress, please reach out to a professional first.
What if I’m dealing with a dismissive avoidant, not a fearful avoidant?
The framework still applies — the work is in your side of the dynamic, not theirs. My lived focus is the fearful avoidant dynamic, so most examples come from hot-and-cold connections.
I’m not sure this is my pattern.
Take the 3-minute quiz first. If your result mentions the Spiral, this masterclass was built for you.
“The first rep can be as small as noticing the urge to check, recognising what it will cost you, and putting the phone down. This masterclass shows you where that rep fits in the bigger picture — and what your life looks like when the reps add up.”
— JEREMY · FOUNDER, BACK TO SELF